Dear Future Husband, What Is Love?

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#DearFutureHusband,

Today someone said “Focus on the things that are within your control” and again someone said “There comes a time where you will have to learn patience.”

Got me thinking. What was I waiting for from you that I didn’t already have in my life?

What was the main focus on you appearing into my life that was so important to me?

The answer is your love.

I am surrounded by love all the time, but somehow I have only held on the picture of love to be romance instead of everlastingI looked forward to seeing it, feeling it and hearing it from you. I’ve now come to know that love is not packaged or categorized but lives within us and around us. I see love every day, I feel love every moment and I hear it every second. However, I happened to overlooked that, even though I knew it, in waiting for you and being focused on how I’d know you love me, see how you love me, feel and hear your love. I played the scenes back and forth in my mind- how I would love you, show you love and make you feel loved by me. The funny thing is I don’t even know you yet, but somehow I just know that love would bring us together.

So I asked myself- what is your version of love? Not what others have told me love is or what it looks, feels and sounds like.

Silence.

I don’t know what love is.

For me to figure it out I had to go back to God and asked Him about love.

“Oh Beloved Father, please reveal to me what love is. Please show me what love looks like, feels like and sounds like. Please help me understand the truth about love and what it is that makes it so important to us. Teach me how to love myself so I can love You back and love others as I love myself.

He has sent me back to 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8. This verse I have read over many times and seemed to have not understood it well. As I am reading the verse over again it hits me that I have no control over love, how it feels, looks and sounds. It may live within me and around me, but it’s an on-going thing.

Verse 8 says, “Love never ends”. Verse 4 says, “love is patient”. Love may be what brings us together, but our interpretations may be different. The lesson here is I have no control of what brings us together, but who does?

God is love. He is everlasting. He is patient. He is kind. He has been waiting for me just like I have been waiting for you. It’s about time I pursued Him and His love. His love will bring us together and that will be because you have been pursuing Him too. I will soon discover the love I have been waiting for.

This is one thing that is within my control, to know what love is.

Your beloved,

Harmony

#DearFutureHusband notes started last year (2014) as love notes to my Future Husband.  God has not brought him my way yet, but I am still believing in Him for my gift.  Putting the notes on social media was a way of hopefully grabbing his attention. I was basically making conversation and in doing so, inspiring other women to empower and encourage their Future Husbands before meeting them, to see the good in a man and want the best for him.  It later became a platform to inspire and encourage Future Husbands and already Husbands to be the best they can be. Some of the posts are personal and for my #DearFutureHusband and some are for #DearFutureHusbands and Husbands out there.

About The Author: 

10428640_10205536827637733_491797516647396958_nHarmony Zenande Botya is an inspirational writer from Western Cape, South Africa. She is a first year student at The Aleit Academy and aspiring Events Coordinator. She loves good books, good food, good music and being surround by people with good conversation and energy. One other thing she loves is sending words of love, encouragement and empowerment to others. Says Harmony, “God is my first and last love, desire and focus.  I am who I am today because of His love, grace and blessings.”

(Author’s photo used with author’s permission)

Editor: Asa-Mari Thompson 

Photo credit: google images

Dear Future Husband, Meet Me In The Promised Land

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#DearFutureHusband

I have spent most of my life waiting for you. Waiting to experience and explore life with you. Waiting to meet you, see you, touch you, love you and most of all hold your hand. I have been waiting. In the many years of waiting, I’ve met a few guys who seemed to be like the man I imagined you to be, but truth be told, they weren’t you. I took some time out to fix myself up and surround myself with love so when you came you’d notice me as beautiful and filled with love. I wrote you love notes on Facebook, hoping you would see them and notice me. I prayed for you and spent time talking to God about someone only He knew existed.

I’m done waiting, I’m done talking, I’m done dreaming and I’m done writing.

You are only just a part of my dreams and plans, not yet my reality. Day and night, same thing. Reality is the life I am living now, God wills and plans. I have moved from this place of “waiting” for you to appear and journey with me. I am moving on with God’s plans and no longer my plans.

You were a part of my plans. Only God knows where and when you fit into His plans. To dream of you every day is only holding me back to what I wanted and never got; what is expected of you right now and are not here to fulfill. It’s time I let go of the dream and idea of you and just live out God’s plan for me right now, which is a dream come true everyday. If this means continuing this journey alone, then so be it. I’ve come this far with God; we can keep going on together.

If along the way we do cross paths, I hope that you are everything I imagined and more, A man after God’s own heart. And I hope I am everything you imagined me to be and what God has me to be for you. Don’t look for me here or wonder if I am coming back to the place I first prayed about you and for you. The place where I waited for you. I’ve gone to where God has me to be right now, the Promised Land. Ask Him where that is and where I am; He will show you the way.

Don’t get angry with God if you reach a place and I’m not there; I’m on the move now, pursuing my purpose. Don’t get upset if I don’t see you or notice you; I’m purposed and God-driven now. Don’t get upset with God when it takes years to find me; waiting taught me patience. Don’t lose focus on God in pursuit of me; I did that, and that’s how you first broke my heart. You never appeared.

You will eventually reach the Promised Land and that’s where I will be; not waiting, but living and loving life as God planned for me.

With love

Harmony

#DearFutureHusband notes started last year (2014) as love notes to my Future Husband.  God has not brought him my way yet, but I am still believing in Him for my gift.  Putting the notes on social media was a way of hopefully grabbing his attention. I was basically making conversation and in doing so, inspiring other women to empower and encourage their Future Husbands before meeting them, to see the good in a man and want the best for him.  It later became a platform to inspire and encourage Future Husbands and already Husbands to be the best they can be. Some of the posts are personal and for my #DearFutureHusband and some are for #DearFutureHusbands and Husbands out there.

About The Author: 

10428640_10205536827637733_491797516647396958_nHarmony Zenande Botya is an inspirational writer from Western Cape, South Africa. She is a first year student at The Aleit Academy and aspiring Events Coordinator. She loves good books, good food, good music and being surround by people with good conversation and energy. One other thing she loves is sending words of love, encouragement and empowerment to others. Says Harmony, “God is my first and last love, desire and focus.  I am who I am today because of His love, grace and blessings.”

(Author’s photo used with author’s permission)

Editor: Asa-Mari Thompson 

Photo credit: google images

Dear Future Husband, I’m Not Afraid To Love You

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I’m not afraid to love you.

I’m not afraid to throw my arms around your neck and get lost in your eyes

Or to close my eyes and bask in the warmth of your smile

I’m not afraid to wrap myself in your embrace

and feel our soul entwine

To let my heart keep time with yours

I want to marry you.

I don’t just want to get married. I want to marry you.

Not because of what you have or who I think you are,

or because I think marrying you will make my life

perfect.

I want to marry you because I know you

and I love you and

because I know life isn’t perfect

but the idea of spending the rest of my life with you makes me want

to keep going.

I want every piece of imperfection with you.

And I want to marry you in your backyard.

On a Wednesday,

in the afternoon.

I want it to be simple

and beautiful

and elegant.

I want to tell your family and our friends how much I love you and

how much you mean to me, and

for them to witness me telling you how much I love you, and

that I promise to love you until the end of time.

I want the sun to set on us kissing

and dancing

and my not having to go home in the morning.

I want to wake up the next day with your last name,

as part of you,

as part of your family.

And I want to look out into the yard

and remember where we stood when we took our vows.

I want to fill your heart and home with happiness

with you.

I want to marry you.

I’m not afraid

To hold your hand and let you lead me

To places I cannot go alone

To carry your voice on my tongue

Or hold your essence in my womb

Through gardens, along sea shores,

Nurseries and cemeteries

Forever no longer scares me.

I love you

Therefore

I am not afraid.

© Asa-Mari Thompson, 2015